Healing: An Endless Journey Of Self-Reflections
Often than not, when it comes to healing, there are so many stereotypes that springs to our mind, the majority of which are based in form of “transformational montages” that we see in motion pictures and TV shows, in which the character after experiencing trauma, gets their shit together and fixes their problems and continues with their lives in their happily ever afters. We believe that it is a one time process, where you engage yourself into series of self-reflections and once you’ve discovered the root of your problem lies, you tackle it or you face the thing that you have been fearing the most and then that’s it- you have done the extra-ordinary, you have healed.
And as difficult it is to admit, healing is an everlasting process. Once we fix our lenses on the widened horizon, we witness that outside the realm of fiction and the idealness of the world, healing is brutal. It is this never-ending path of self-reflection, agony, denials, and resentments. Healing is not ripping a bandaid off of a chapter of your life and expecting the wounds to be gone, healing is the constant self-reminders of the pain we carry within ourselves. Healing doesn’t have to be linear, there is no definitive chart to follow. Recovery always looks different for everyone.
It can be especially daunting when you’ve given it your all and faced your fears, but you still don’t feel like you’re on the verge of being ‘over-it. I was on the same bridge of the unknown, berating myself on the fact for not being able to overcome my traumas, no matter how hard I tried. It took me a long time to realize how I was striving myself off of the validity of my pain that came with the trauma when I questioned its existence.
Living our truth isn’t always comfortable, but it takes us where we need to go and allows us to become who we need to be.
But I uncovered the harsh reality that there is no such thing as “getting over it.” There is no life-hack trick to getting over your trauma, you have to simply just learn how to live with it. Healing is an endless battle where each time your pain pushes you backward, you have to put on your best armor and fight till you’ve moved forward.. until it comes back and starts pushing again. It is the realization that the pain is a part of you and not a different entity that gives you the courage to rise above the denials and hold hands with the deeper part of yourself to bring yourself to the light.
